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Pls STFU About Your Sex Positivity
Unless you’re actually being positive
This week’s article once again gets started by my sister.
This season on RHONY there’s a running argument about sex talk. One housewife, Leah, is constantly engaging in explicit sex talk and when others protest or express anything negative her answer is “That’s just me — I’m sex positive” It’s even in her tagline for the season!
Which leaves me to wonder — doesn’t sex positivity include respecting others’ comfort levels when it comes to talking about sex? What part of “sex positivity” includes screaming “You’re a ‘ho! And you’re a ‘ho” at everyone else when they push back and express their discomfort with a debate about how big a dick is too big? While I appreciate the irony of protesting dick talk at a Holly Golightly-themed dinner (prostitute or just a sugar baby?) my question is …
Hey Dr Sue what exactly is sex positivity?
There’s no one definition of sex positive. For most people it means not feeling ashamed about sex (and I have to admit that I’m struggling to see how slut shaming fits in with that). Being sex positive for most people also includes talking more openly about sex and sexuality. And we definitely live in a culture right now where for many people its easier to have sex than to talk about sex.