Hey Dr Sue — With The Soft Vagina Am Hurry To Ejaculate With Out My Control, But Am Not Happy

This is one of the many times I wish I could ask follow up questions!

Does it happen all the time? With only some people?

When it happened, were you feeling really turned on? Were you nervous about anything?

Let me start by saying that this is way more common than most people realize. Some might call it premature ejaculation, but that’s actually a medical term and may not fully fit what’s happening here.

When health care professionals diagnose a condition, they will often use the DSM — which is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

According to the current DSM, for something to be considered premature ejaculation it has to happen almost all the time, have happened for at least 6 months and can’t be explained by something else.

And it has to cause distress.

I don’t diagnose people — so I’m not as concerned with whether or not this can be diagnosed as “premature ejaculation.” But I think there’s some important pieces in that criteria that can help you address this.

I’m guessing that it’s bothering you, or else you wouldn’t have reached out to me. I’m not sure if it helps if I tell you that…