Hey Dr Sue — Why Do Women Lose Sexual Interest After Marriage?

This question makes some really big assumptions!

Let me start by saying that not all women lose sexual interest after marriage. This is one of those cultural myths that just keeps getting repeated.

But for many women their sex drive does change. To understand why means taking a look at the many reasons why this might be happening

For some women, a change in sex drive after getting married may be because of the relationship with their new spouse. What we hear from many married women is that their spouse changes after marriage. The romance seems to decline, their spouse no longer pursues them and so they feel less wanted, less desired. When this happens, it can be easy to lose sexual interest in the relationship. We could talk more about why some people’s romantic behaviors change after marriage but that’s for another post for another day.

One of the reasons why a woman may lose sexual interest after marriage is because of all the demands that come with becoming a “wife.” Especially if we’re talking about a male/female marriage, the demands and expectations that may come from her partner, her partner’s family, and society in general could feel overwhelming.

There are different expectations for a wife than there are for a girlfriend or a…