Hey Dr Sue — Why Do Some People Who Are In A Happy And Healthy Relationship Cheat?

There are a lot of reasons why people cheat.

Some do it because they’re not getting what they need from their relationship and so they look to get their needs met elsewhere. Sometimes it’s about sex. Maybe they’re not having enough sex with their partner. Or maybe they want to do things sexually that their current partner isn’t willing to do.

But sometimes it’s not about sex. Sometimes what they’re not getting from their relationship is a sense of feeling loved and wanted. They may feel a lack of connection with their current partner, and so they try and find that connection with someone new.

Sometimes people cheat out of anger or revenge, as a way to punish their current partner.

And sometimes people cheat simply because the opportunity presents itself. It’s not that they were unhappy or even thinking about cheating. But they meet someone, they click with them, one thing leads to another…

Keep in mind that so far everything I’ve talked about is physical cheating. But what about emotional cheating?

Emotional cheating is when you develop a deep meaningful relationship with someone other than your partner, but it doesn’t (or hasn’t yet) become physical. People may do this for the…