Hey Dr Sue — Why Do I Enjoy Being Watched By Women While I Jack Off? Is It Normal To Prefer Jacking Off Over Sexual Intercourse?

There are two questions here and I want to address each one separately.

The first one about why you enjoy being watched by women while you masturbate is kind of a personal question. What I mean by that is that the reason why you enjoy it may be so specific to you that I’m not sure I can answer it for you. But I can try and give you generalizations, and maybe one of those feels right.

I’m starting with the assumption that the women who are watching you jack off are doing so willingly. If they’re not, then that’s a huge problem. An unwilling viewer makes it easier for me to talk about, because we’re entering the realm of exhibitionism and there’s a lot there about power and dominance.

But it’s not ok. It’s never ok to force someone to do something, including watch you jack off, without their consent.

So with the assumption that this is with women who have consented to watch, there are several reasons why people find this enjoyable.

For some people they like the idea of someone watching them masturbate because they like the idea of someone witnessing them experience pleasure. It gives them a way of sharing that experience of…