Hey Dr Sue — Is There A Wrong Way To Have Sex?

As long as everyone who’s involved is okay with what is happening there is no “wrong” way.

If everyone hasn’t given consent to have sex than that’s a problem! If the person can’t give consent because they are mentally impaired, intoxicated, or underage, than that’s rape.

If everyone has given consent then it’s less about what’s wrong, and more about what’s legal.

And that’s going to depend a lot on where you are.

If you’re out in public having sex than what you’re doing is probably a crime. This is because states have laws that may list this as public lewdness or indecent exposure.

If you serve in the US miliary and you’re cheating on your spouse, then the Uniform Code of Military Justice may consider that to be a crime.

Depending on what country you’re in, sex outside of marriage is illegal. It may also be illegal to engage in sex acts with someone of the same gender.

But let’s get back to the idea of right and wrong, and not focus on the crime aspect. As a country we often don’t talk about sex, we just kind of assume that everyone know what that words means.

And for many people that means penile-vaginal intercourse.