Hey Dr Sue — I’m Obsessed With Ball Busting. Is There Something Wrong With Me Mentally?

I know you may not have thought about your words carefully, but that word “obsessed” is throwing me off.

If you are seriously obsessed with it, like spending all your time thinking about it, watching it, reading about it, then it might be a problem. If it’s getting in the way of your relationships that can also be a sign of a problem. If you’re not going to work because you’re thinking about ball busting, or engaging in it, that’s also a sign of a problem.

But let’s say that none of this applies. Let’s say that you just used the term “obsessed” in the way that most of us who speak normal English do, not in a clinical way. In that case, I’m not as worried.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with someone engaging in ball busting or anything else that’s part of the BDSM world. In American culture it’s easy to think of anything other than “vanilla” sex as problematic. But a lot of that is due to the fact that we don’t often openly discuss the wide range of sexual behaviors that people engage in behind closed doors.

BDSM can be both mind blowing and mind opening for folks. So if you’re new to ball busting, it’s really easy to find it exciting and just spend a lot of time thinking about it. Isn’t that what most people do when…