Hey Dr Sue — I’m Bored With My Sex Life. What Should I Do?

I hate to answer a question with a question — but what do you *want* to do? You need to ask yourself what it is that’s making you feel bored with your sex life.

Are you single? Are you bored by your regular old masturbation routine? Try using a sex toy. If you’re already using one, try a different one. Maybe focus on other parts of your body. You may find that you get really turned on when you start playing with other parts of your body, like your nipples.

If you’re with a partner, getting bored with your sex life is not all that uncommon — especially if you get into a set routine. Like first you touch A, then they do B…. it’s predictable and while that can be great for some people, others find that it gets stale after a while.

If the routine is the issue then change the routine! Try mixing things up, maybe add in some (new) sex toys.

Maybe you want to add in some role play, or light bondage, or not so light bondage.

Have you tried edging? This can be great for solo and partner play. Edging is when you build up almost to an orgasm, and then stop right at the last minute. Then you can build back up.

The good thing with edging is that even if you don’t do it “right” (meaning you orgasm before you stop playing) it can…