Hey Dr Sue — I Can’t Get An Erection When I’m With A Woman

So there’s a lot going on here.

First and foremost, if you think you’re suicidal please get help! You can call or text the suicide hotline at 988. If you’re not in crisis may just want to talk to someone, you can call a warmline in your state

Having a soft dick when you don’t want one can be embarrassing. I don’t think it’s going to make you feel any better, but most men struggle with this at some point in their lives.

Keep in mind that even if your dick isn’t working, there are other things you can do to please your partner. You can use your mouth, fingers, sex toys, or a combination of these things to get your partner off.

With that said, let’s get back to why you may not be able to get an erection.

There’s a myth that if a man is turned on he’s automatically going to get an erection. And that’s just not true.

There are a lot of reasons why men don’t get erections.

One is that there’s something physically preventing it. Normally I would say take a look at what medications you’re on. Things like blood pressure medications, and anti-anxiety medications can make it difficult for a man to get an erection. There are also illnesses and conditions like nerve damage, blood vessel issues, and diabetes that can make it difficult for a man to get an erection.