Hey Dr Sue — How Much Does Butt Stuff Hurt?

How much butt stuff hurts is going to depend on a few things.

The first is how well prepared you are for it. The second is how you progress through butt stuff. The third thing is how well you communicate with your partner.

While a lot of people may joke that butt stuff always hurts, it doesn’t always have to hurt. Now if you want it to hurt because you’re into the pain, that’s a whole different thing. But I’m guessing that you don’t want it to hurt from the way the question was phrased. If I’m wrong, let me know and I’ll post another answer.

In terms of preparation you want to make sure you’re using a lot of lube. And when you’re picking a lube you need to think about a few things. The first is type of lube.

There are basically three types of lube. Oil based, silicone based, and water based. Oil based can be a great option for butt stuff. It’s a little thicker so it will feel like there’s a little more cushioning. It doesn’t easily come off in water, so you can use it in the shower if that’s where you decide to do butt stuff. Oil based lubes can definitely stain fabrics. And they should not be used with latex or polyisoprene condoms! So if condoms are important for you for butt stuff, oil based lubes aren’t an option.