Hey Dr Sue — Do Guys Like Giving Girls Oral?

It’s hard for me to answer this because every guy is different. Some might love giving girls oral. Some might not care for it but do it because the girl likes it, and some guys just won’t do it at all.

The thing to keep in mind is that we learn about sex mostly from the media and our friends, and what we learn is going to help shape what we think about certain behaviors.

And in this country, there are some really varying views on a man going down on a woman. It wouldn’t be accurate to say that all these views are negative, but a lot are.

Part of it may be linked to power, The person who is receiving oral is viewed as being in a more dominant position. This means that the giver is more submissive, and that’s not a role we tend to associate with men. At least not in public. In private we know that many men enjoy being submissive.

Part of it is linked to the idea that the focus of sex play should be on men, and what they want. There’s a lot of research to show that women focus more on their male partner’s pleasure than they do on their own. So to shift that focus onto women and women’s pleasure is a departure from what we think of “normal” or “acceptable.”

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