Hey Dr Sue — Can a Sex Toy Get Stuck Inside Me?

This is one of the questions where I really need more information!

The simple answer is yes, but let’s talk more about it because *where* you’re putting the sex toy makes a difference.

Sex toys can get stuck inside the vagina, but not lost. I use the term lost because I get that question a lot. People seem to think the vagina is some sort of limitless chasm, and that things can go inside and will never be found again. The truth is that there’s a limited amount of space inside the vagina. The average length of the vagina from the opening to the cervix (where the vagina ends) is 3–6 inches, depending on how aroused the person is. So a sex toy that gets lodged in the vagina isn’t going to float into other parts of the body.

Sex toys can also get stuck in the anus, but the concern here is that there is nothing that prevents the toy from moving further up into the body, though that’s not going to happen instantly. So let’s talk about how to get the sex toy out.

Removing the stuck sex toy

If a sex toy does get stuck inside you, the first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and try to relax. I know the chances of that happening if you’re freaking out are slim to none, but try. The more tense you are the tighter the muscles get, and that can…