Does The Little Man In The Boat Really Need A Life Preserver?

Sue Milstein
3 min readJul 20, 2021

What to do (if anything) about a busted up bean

Photo by Deon Black on Unsplash

This week’s post once again gets started by my sister:

When there’s a new Housewife the established cast members have their own unique way of getting to know her… You jump straight to “What work have you had done?” It’s like dogs sniffing each other’s butts to get to know each other but in this case it’s a conversation at a dinner party about cosmetic surgeries, past and future. On the season premiere of Real Housewives of Potomac the newest housewife, Mia, proudly ticks off a laundry list of procedures she’s had including but not limited to “Botox, fillers, lips, boob job, tummy tuck …” It’s a LIST. And then she hits us with “I even had my clit worked on!”

I don’t have a snarky question for this because all I could think of was “What, what WHAT?!?”

WTF? This is a thing?

Here’s the thing, women are so bombarded with messages about how they should look that I can’t say I’m surprised that they turn to plastic surgery. That “acceptable” way to look doesn’t stop at breast and waist size, it also includes what their genitals look like. It’s one of the reasons why women have a labiaplasty — which is a surgery designed to trim down the inner lips of the vulva.

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Sue Milstein
Sue Milstein

Written by Sue Milstein

Dr. Sue Milstein has a PhD in Human Sexuality Education and is the co-author of the 7th edition of "Human Sexuality: Making informed decisions."